Wedding toasts are easily remembered, but you want yours to be remembered for all the right reasons.
You want to come across feeling and looking confident as you deliver a speech that touches everyone.
Here are seven tips to make to make sure that you perform the best wedding speech that you can.
1. Be Natural
When writing your speech, make sure that you write as if you were speaking to a friend.
Don’t try to structure it as if it was a business talk, which will make you more flustered.
Make sure that you are comfortable with the sentences that you are writing, so that you are comfortable when you say them.
Also, make sure that you know your audience so that your speech seems natural to them! If they are more laid back, use more jokes.
2. Avoid awkward words
If you are worried about stumbling over your words, as many of us are, be sure to avoid difficult words.
If you struggle to pronounce particular words, or often just mispronounce it, take it out or use another word in its place.
You are focusing on what you want to say, not the specific words.
The second thing is to practice it.
Read it out to a good friend for constructive feedback. See how they respond.
Make sure that you know all the points of your speech so that if you forget a line, you can talk naturally.
The more that you know it, the better it will flow.
4. Watch someone who seems interested
It can be nerve wracking looking at all those faces in the crowd, but pay attention to the ones who are smiling and nodding.
Studies show that when you see approval, you will feel better about what you are doing.
Besides, everyone likes to feel appreciated.
5. Make sure that you breathe
When we give speeches, we tend to rush. It is important to breathe between words or sentences, and take pauses
Breathing helps because it:
- draws out the speech making it longer
- makes you appear to be full of confidence
- lowers your heart rate
- helps you to remain calm and focused
6. Assume that everyone is interested
Studies show that when you picture the people you talk to as your closest friends, you instantly look more likeable.
Block out any worrying thoughts with the affirmation, “Everyone is interested. Everyone is happy.”
It might make you feel a bit calmer, which in turn makes it more enjoyable for others.
7. Be expressive with your emotions
Imagine your favourite idol or actor and you will probably notice that they express their feelings well.
They laugh or cry. It is important that you do the same. When you are exuberant and make jokes, it allows people to feel the same.
It also relieves the tension to joke and laugh. If you want a more sombre speech, make sure that they feel the sentimentality.
Don’t be shy, allow yourself to be sad, and be happy.
There you go, now you have all the tips to give a killer wedding speech.
Just relax and have fun!