It is a well-known fact that men don’t like admitting that they are stressed, though they areas equally stressed as women.
Men actually bottle up their feelings and they don’t ask for help.
This can lead to health and other psychological problems, and in some severe cases can result in death.
Suicide rates in men is now 3 times higher in men when compared to women has been linked with the tendency of men to close up during a crisis and their unwillingness to ask for help or talk.
Why men never admit that are feeling stressed
There are a number of reasons why men fail to admit that they are stressed, including the following:
Finding it difficult to talk about their problems
Men are known to find it difficult to talk about their problems or express emotions as opposed to women.
Scientific research findings show that men have a lower emotional quotient (EQ) than women. For this reason, they are less able to express emotion, talk about their feelings, or seek social support when necessary. Researchers have attributed this behaviour to nurture as opposed to nature.
Traditionally many men have been seen as the main breadwinner and because of this, they have learned to be competitive and resilient. They have learnt that showing weakness leads to failure. Boys learn from their fathers that men are supposed to be strong. For this reason, they “shouldn’t cry and should always try to cope”.
Psychologists believe that one of the reasons why men fail to open up about their problems is related to their biological makeup.
As opposed to men, women who are under pressure naturally talk about it, which in return allows them to express their feelings. This promotes the release of a hormone known as oxytocin in their brain, which makes them feel better.
Men do not experience this kind of thing and for them, talking is a waste of time. The levels of oxytocin are much lower in men.
In addition, the female brain is hardwired for empathy, while the male brain is hardwired to understand and build systems. What this means is that it can be difficult for a man to articulate his feelings.
Signs of Stress in Men
The following are some of the signs of a man under stress:
- Feeling tired
- Recurring headaches
- Increased perspiration
- Weight gain or loss
- Grinding teeth and clenched jaws
- Lack of motivation
- Loss of concentration, leading to failure to complete projects
- Skeletal and muscular aches and pains
Stress Symptoms in Men
Stress is also associated with the following more severe symptoms in men:
- Elevated heart rate
- Skin eruptions
- Chest pain
- High blood pressure
- Digestive problems
- Sexual problems, including lack of desire, premature ejaculation, and inability to have an erection.
Side Effects of Stress in Men
- Excessive drinking in a bid to cope
- Increased smoking
- Inability to sleep
- Anorexia or overeating
- Restless anxiety
- Isolation or withdrawal
- Mood swings
- Job dissatisfaction
- Feeling insecure
- Anger and inability to control anger
- Changes in close relationships
- Decreased productivity.
Causes of Stress in Men
Stress can result from several different factors, including:
- Health problems, especially if you are suffering from a chronic illness such as cancer
- Emotional problems: These include such issues as an inability to handle grief or guilt
- Relationships problems
- Major life changes, including the death of a partner
- Financial Woes
- Social injustices including discrimination based on race, sexual orientation, age, or gender
- Your surroundings
- Family conflicts
- Job dissatisfaction
Simple Ways to Manage Stress
There are several different treatment options for stress, including the following:
1. Ecotherapy: This refers to a way of improving your self-esteem and well-being by spending time nature. This may include engaging in physical exercise in green spaces, among others.
2. Medication: Your doctor can decide to prescribe certain medications to help you deal with stress. These include minor tranquillizers or sleeping pills, medications to treat any symptoms of stress, or antidepressants if you have anxiety or depression.
3. Complementary or alternative therapies
- Traditional Chinese medicines
Using hypnotherapy to treat stress is becoming more accepted by many people. Essentially, hypnotherapy helps you develop the right attitude towards the problems and situations that you face every day, thus helping you cope with the resulting stress.
How does Hypnotherapy Work in Treating Stress?
In most cases, the treatment will work instantaneously. Once the cause of your stress is identified during the process of hypnotherapy and the necessary reprogramming is done, you will completely change your behaviour and attitude. This will eventually help treat your stress completely. In some cases, a single session of hypnotherapy can help get rid of all
negative programming that would otherwise affect your life adversely it left unattended.