Change isn’t something many of us would consider new. At all stages of life, we have all had to adapt to change.
Whether it was adjusting to school, moving to a new town, changing jobs, getting married or divorced, change is just about the only constant in this world.
Fear of change is one of the most emotionally and life-debilitating worries in the world.
This is because, it is hard to point out, and it is often seen as a broad range of manifestations all of which culminate in stunted growth.
Emotionally, financially and even socially.
Many people with an actual fear of the unknown would never be able to say whatever it is they fear consciously.
Many people resort to minor descriptions of what is ultimately fear of change.
What is this?
Change is any modification to an environment that a human has grown accustomed to.
Humans, just like animals are creatures of habit.
We seek to do the same things over and over because we tend to be content in knowing we have power over the outcome.
That is likely why we stick to the same horrible job, we stay with the same abusive partner or live in a noisy neighbourhood.
All these are scenarios our heads have gotten accustomed to.
We even have a saying for this; “better the devil you know than the angel you don’t.”
Change to us, therefore, gets to take the form of various images such as failure, success, rejection, abandonment or even being broke.
The fear of any of this things is simply an outward interpretation of an inner problem called fear of change.
This is the reason why many therapists describe the fear of change as amorphous, it presents itself in many shapes.
Many people will seek out therapists because they have suddenly become anxious or because they are struggling with emotions or even because they are not eating or sleeping well.
All these are simple ways in which one may describe their anxiety, but fear of change in itself is attributed to a few things:
- Fear that you will probably fail
- Fear that you may not be able to live without a loved one after a breakup
- Fear that you may not be liked by your new co-workers or neighbours
- Fear that you might have wasted years of your life in the wrong profession and with the wrong person
- Fear that you may actually succeed and this may not be something you are used to.
Fear of change paralyses you, it is the voice within you that tells you will fail, that you are better off staying where you know, that you are not good enough to work there or that you are simply weaker alone.
We all have the choice to change – if we want to
Fear of the unknown is a common challenge that many people suffer from.
More than 80% of people have faced this problem at least once in their life more than they may care to admit.
As such, it is okay to seek help and reach out for assistance.
It is okay actually to talk out what you feel is holding you back.
After all, if you fear change and change is a part of life, then you get to deny yourself the chance to live.